HOW TO HAVE A GREAT STAYCATION

staycation (noun): a holiday spent in one’s home country rather than abroad, or one spent at home and involving day trips to local attractions.
 
Here’s my tip:
 
Clear out your day to have as little requirements of yourself as possible using the three D’s – Delegate (for someone else to do for you), delay (until tomorrow or another day) or delete. Then start your day with an activity that will allow you to get out of your head and into your body so as you can listen and act upon your intuition the whole day. I’ve done this personally a few times and ended up having some divine bewitchful days.

*this tip was submitted to be part an article on MyDeal.com.au 

Were there times in the past year YOU found anything sexual (esp. penetrative sex) unpleasurable ?

Believe it or not, I have. Yes, even someone like me who has awoken her physical/sexual + emotional/mental + spiritual/energetic bodies … have had them in divine communion … have had at least two incidents in the past year !

These two incidents were with two different men .. one of them I had been on a date with (yeh, only one date) .. and it was a divine double lesson in both knowing where my boundaries were as well as realising I no longer could just “sleep around” like I used to do :/ (yes, I had been going thru what I called a slut phase (which I use in an empowered word) for the last 10 years since my late 20s) …. and the other was part of a three-some (I was the other woman – the “Unicorn” as I’m known in swinger circles) …. I felt fine being with the other woman (interestingly) however as the both the man/woman couple in this circumstance were also dom/sub (man as master) … I wasn’t in the right head-space to be dominated as I was wanting sensuality and other ‘needs’ there weren’t met at the time.

Thus I’d say this percentage is higher if more women readily admitted it.

It’s thanks to these two incidents that I now have very strong (and stable) boundaries around penetrative sex … and am very picky with how I will allow someone (even myself!) penetrate me with penis, vibrators, fingers, tongues or anything 😍😋

I also am more intune with my physical/sexual body for what it needs at any point in time – whether it is energetic, sensual or sexual (‘fuck me now’), domination/submission/kink. Sometimes it’s a mixture of two 😉 as it was for me last weekend when I was with the man in my life (I don’t label the relationship in purpose) .. he intuitively knew exactly what I wanted without me saying 🙂

He had me over his lap (playing into my kinky-nature).. whilst also touching me sensually (which I had been craving all week) … and giving my ass a slap every so often .. whilst also asserting himself enough so that I stayed in surrender (as I did slip out of ‘allowance’ and surrender every so often) … and surrender I did .. and the whole experience was multi-orgasmic. He hardly penetrated me with his fingers .. and NEVER TOUCHED MY CLIT 💓💓

It’s amazing my own personal journey in regards to my clit: I’ve come from ‘only’ being able to get off being clitorial (and not really ‘knowing’ any other orgasms) to being able to get off in multiple ways beyond it .. even in other parts of my body outside of my genitals (back, neck, legs, inner thigh, feet, breasts, etc).

I’m okay with sharing this (even tho’ some people might regard this post as soft porn or erotica) as I want the reminder myself of what is possible .. without actual penis in vagina sex.

That whole experience was so … just … insanely orgasmic on all levels.

This is why I’m incredibly excited about attending Awakening Female Pleasure beyond yoni massage – Brisbane later this month 😁 …. you’ll have to join The Bewitchful Connection ( Body | Love | Sexuality ) for the inside pics, video and insights that I share in regards to the event.

A Curious Mind Creates Magick

I’ve been listening to my intuition and without question reaching out to a lot of people on my friends’ list with an invite to connect with me on a call.
 
I’ve been asking (as I am wanting to get to know those on my friends’ list here) to learn more about them and what it is they want to create or expand into that they feel is the next stage of their relationship with themselves / life.
 
I am wanting to connect with the people as people – beyond their Facebook profile.
 
It’s something I had avoided doing for a long long time … it was something I was asked to do many times by different mentors … I *know* it is through conversations that abundance results (in money, clarity, and many other ways).
 
It’s only now due to the fact I finally feel ‘connected’ to “me” that I can do this with more ease than I did before 💕
 
Here’s the thing: I AM GENUINELY CURIOUS — I am even upfront and truthful and state as such in the message: “call it a child’s curiosity and wanting to connect more with the people”
 
Thankfully most people have been receptive. Those who it hasn’t resonated with for whatever reason have usually ignored me or just said they’re too busy .. which is okay 💕
 
I have only had one person who due to her cautiousness couldn’t trust that I was genuine in my connection. I get it. I’m not belittling her as I used to be her !
 
Someone would say “HI” to me via FB Messenger and I’d shut them down in a heartbeat because of how closed off and cautious and distrusting I was about people. (Ultimately, I was self-loathing – not kidding – because someone who is connected to love isn’t naturally distrusting.)
 
Now ? I’m a *lot* more open. I’m more receptive. I’m more trusting for the reason why people are reaching out to me. Also, for the men, I’m not as harsh either as I used to be (and I was harsh). ( Strongly recommend Queen’s Code for anyone who wants to transform their relationships with men !! )
 
Whilst I am more open… I also have boundaries and enough self-love (confidence) to also enforce those boundaries if I feel they’re being crossed at any time. It’s OKAY to say NO ! It is also okay to ask people to ‘give you space’ or ‘not right now’ or whatever.
 
Oh.. and this also applies if the person does offer you a service at the end of the call. Selling is the act of releasing the person from the illusion into truth / from disempowerment to empowerment / from fear to trust / from death to life.
 
Selling is a gift of love.
 
… and I don’t always have phone calls that result in selling something … this phone call from which this testimonial (attached) came from ended up being a connection call. We both got to know each other so much more better 💕 and that’s the gift we gave to each other.
 
Every phone call for me is about curiosity.
 
“Sales is a divine intervention of love, truth and liberation.” — Lorna Johnson
 
I’m led by my intuition as to where the call will go – I have no set agenda.
 
If I feel called to offer (“make a sale”), then I will without apology or shame because how can I be shameful of offering something so loving:
 
To assist the person to lay down their struggle … to guide them out of their pattern of deep victimisation … to trust (truly) themselves … and better self-worth, valuing themselves ? 💕
 
Testimonial May 29 2017

Every phone call for me is about me using my intuition and just like any muscle .. the more it is used .. the more it develops. 💪🏽

 
During every call I am providing safe-harbour for every person to be themselves without judgement or shame … and ultimately understand that they are infinitely powerful beings that do not fear. 🙏🏽💥
 
… and hence the reason every phone call I get to create magick 🌟 through curiosity

New Moon Ceremony

This ceremony is an eclectic mix from various sources that I used for inspiration. It was inspired by the private New Moon Fire Ceremony I hosted last night in Palm Beach.  Feel free to do with others or by yourself .. and naturally tweak it as you see fit.

 
WELCOME
 
Ours is a circle, a circle of friendship,
and just like a circle, it goes on and on
endless, eternal, this circle of friendship;
 
— say your name and call in other people —
 
Enter our circle, for here you belong.
 
OPENING
 
God and Goddess, Guardian Angels, and Spiritual Guides
Please be present with us during this ritual
Bless this circle and keep those present protected
No unwanted entities are welcome here
Only pure, divine beings are invited into this space
 
Send to us winds of knowledge and wisdom,
From the fertile ground may we draw growth and stability,
May we ignite our spark of courage and inspiration,
May our intuition wash over us
To bless us in our circle
 
BREATHE + CONNECT + GROUND + CENTRE
 
REFLECT + INTENTION SETTING
 
Write down these words “I accept these things into my life now or something better for my highest good and for the highest good of all concerned.” or something similar at the top of your piece of paper. Below this statement, begin writing down your desires. Your list may consist of a single item or you may have several pages listing multiple items. Try not to limit yourself. If having many things in your life helps to fulfill you then don’t deny yourself wanting these things.
 
It is helpful to salt and pepper your manifest list with smaller items that will manifest quickly. You may think that smaller things are too trivial to put on your intention list… Wrong! Things that tend to manifest with less effort still deserve to be written down. Write down everything that you desire, no matter how little or simple. If it is something that makes you happy, write it down. Manifesting smaller items on our lists actually creates a steady flow of chi giving your list a boost. These smaller manifestations create movement, allowing an ebb and flow of the tides.
 
WITNESS + LET GO
 
Each woman present will stand at the fire, make the statement and then share what she feels drawn to share (keywords, what’s written or whatever) with those present. When she is ready put the paper into the fire – releasing it and letting it go.
 
CLOSING
 
God and Goddess, Guardian Angels, and Spiritual Guides
Thank You for Your presence here today
Thank You for sharing your …
deep mysteries and intuition,
inspiration and courage,
stability and growth,
wisdom and knowledge.
 
Stay if you will, go if you must,
But know that you are ever welcome in our hearts.
 
— END —
Remember to stay hydrated and to eat something healthy to assist you with grounding after the ceremony.

I would not take advice or life coaching from anyone that has not ‘been there, done it.’


The above post in full:

👩 peron on facebook: I would not take advice or life coaching from anyone that has not ‘been there, done it.’

👏✊ This is the exact reason why I’m I re-birthed Lady Vee : Bewitchful Confidence ! I *have* been there, done it.

I have been the shy wallflower at a party just eating the food so as to avoid having to talk to anyone.

I have been the stripper, title-holding showgirl, “glamour” (read: topless/nude/lingerie) model, published (nude) centerfold, xxx (agency) stripper and topless/nude waitress.

I have been “the slut” .. consequently it was also the birth of when I learned of my bi-sexuality and the fact that I do not believe in monogamous relationships.

I have done burlesque and was trained by one of the best ( Lola the Vamp ).

I have done Hens Parties when I ran a (successful at the time) “promotions and modelling” agency 😉 (read: male + female strippers and topless waiters and waitresses) where I taught lap dancing and strip-tease.

In Lady Vee : Bewitchful Confidence’s first incarnation of “StripperLike Confidence” I successfully taught a group of ladies to “be like a stripper” .. and saw the transformations that took place 😄

I’ve been there, done that in being disconnected to my body so much that I was starting to deviate into the realm of BDSM since pain was the only way I could feel ‘anything’ 😐 (this isn’t healthy for me personally – BDSM is a valid lifestyle just not for me.)

I’ve been there, done that in having my boundaries violated – multiple times in all sorts of ways.

I’ve been there, done that in distrusting men and only “using” them for sex and money and whatever I could get from them.

I’ve been there, done that in tapping into abundance only to have it not last and the story/beLIEf I had that this was true .. that it doesn’t last.

I’ve been there, done that in re-wiring my brain and re-awakening my body (all of it not just my pussy/yoni) to experience pleasure at the slightest touch. To be re-connected to my body. To “up-level” my pleasure in a way (lol!)

I’ve now been there, and still doing it: finding my TRUE purpose. finding me. being FREE of the “I am not enough-ness” .. finally really understanding without a shadow of a doubt that I am enough.

Understanding that any of my limiting beliefs are now not my own. None of the events in my life that used to hold “sway” over me no longer do .. and now I know what’s it’s like to deal with generational/biological limiting beliefs (aka “I am not enough-ness”) that I inherited biologically from my mother and father and their parents and so on.

💋🦋💞

Your soul is constantly sending you messages

These message help us on our journey through life and to help make life easier for us (as souls ONLY know ease).

The Feather – the first (gentlest) message we get

The Brick – a not so gentle reminder

The Truck – a massive shift to life

The idea of the feather, the brick and the truck is our soul’s way of delivery of the message (depending upon if our human-self is listening or ignoring)…

I got the truck on Thursday and it took me most of Friday to ‘recover’ from that head on collision with it.

“You want to know the ONLY reason you’re exhausted ? You’re living a lie.” — Lorna Johnson

.. and that is the reason why my own personal battery (which is typically usually ‘fully charged’ and why I seem to have such a ‘big personality’ online) … thanks to what I did (all the decisions I had made which resulted in everything that happened) on Thursday … I was so drained … I felt intensely disconnected from myself … I was at such a low ‘ebb’ … and it was interesting what happened to me whilst I was in that space.

I started second guessing …
I started doubting …
I felt numb (I didn’t have ‘the energy’ to ‘feel’ anything!) …
I had lost my connection to “me” …
I had ‘no voice’ …

If you have a look at my posts from yesterday I relied heavily upon other peoples’ voices to be my own voice as I felt so energetically low .. that I had ‘nothing’ … I couldn’t ‘give’ from an empty cup.

When I understood this (which I did even whilst I was ‘experiencing’ what I experienced on Thursday) … I knew I had just had a major shift …

… and here are the steps I did to regain my energy …

I threw a tantrum then I did my tantric/reiki meditation.

I sent myself a lot of love and compassion.

I never made myself wrong – it just was something that happened based upon decisions I had made earlier in the week.

I listened *AND ACTED* upon my intuition.

It told me around midday to go sit out in the sun (this time on a bean bag – no ants biting my ass!!) to just “be” .. and hang out with Marnie and Garry. I have no f-ing clue how long I was out there .. the point is .. I didn’t question it .. I did it.

FUCK DID THAT HELP RE-CHARGE ME A LOT ! It’s was like a power boost .. going from empty to half full ..

How’d I re-charge to 100% ?

I made the commitment to myself to go ahead with the FB Live Lights On And Dance event I created awhile ago whilst also eating a lot of peppermint and staying hydrated.

The dancing was me “speaking” my truth

The dancing was me being myself unapologetically.

I spelled my name with my ass on FB Live and everyone can view it….

I was having fun.

The secret to bewitchful confidence ? Switch from fear to truth.

I want to invite you to get on a call with me to talk more about what it is you want to create or expand into that you feel is the next stage of your relationship with yourself / life … (call it a child’s curiosity and wanting to connect more with the people)

Let’s chat: www.bewitchfulconfidence.today

Happy Mothers Day ?

Trigger Warning: Abuse, Death, Cancer
 
I’m torn on my feelings about days like mother’s day every year. I can’t be the only one ?
 
On the one hand, I love seeing how all the mothers are celebrated by their children.
 
I always “take my hat off” to all mothers especially since I’ve chosen to not be one. After living with a lady for a short period who had four children (two teens, two young) it really gave me a glimpse into motherhood. The joys and the not-so-joys. In such a fast paced, digital world .. having a day like Mother’s Day can be a good reminder to be grateful for all that your mother has done for you and how much love she loves you.
 
I also like to take a moment myself to celebrate my own “motherly” love towards my pets and how my own “mother”-energy has shown up in this world.
 
… ON THE OTHER HAND …
 
It also has the dualistic shadow side for me (hence the reason I’m torn every Mother’s Day).
 
Forever reminding me of my own mother.
 
My own mother transitioned back in late 1999. She originally was diagnosed with breast cancer then after a double mastectomy managed to go into remission for a period. Then the cancer came back and ultimately ‘beat’ her. For the last 3 months of her life, she was literally skin and bones as I saw her ‘waste’ away. I now know what it looks like when someone is alive however not living.
 
I do not want your condolences or sympathy. Now, it is just an event. It holds no emotional charge.
 
(You can possibly see why life has given me the gift to be a Priestess Of The Body and to unlock the divine pleasure (and healing) that comes from releasing shame, self-criticism about our bodies and ourselves. Life is too short and pleasure can be healing.)
 
That’s not the only shadow side to mother’s day for me.
 
My mother was abusive.
 
It’s taken me a lot of inner work to reach this point where I can reveal this and it’s not for ego, sympathy or anything other than to state a fact.
 
She was the disciplinarian of my family. When I was young it was the wooden spoon .. then when I was a teen it really exploded. I don’t know what was happening for her as her own person (she never told me – we never had that type of relationship) as I only knew what was happening to me as her only daughter.
 
It was when I was a teen I experienced emotional abuse.
 
Her love was very conditional.
 
Even one time she threatened my life with a knife.
 
“Next time this will be your throat.” then she proceeded to slit the seat of my bicycle which was only steps away from me.
 
(I am *not* seeking sympathy here – this is purely JUST a statement of what happened. It’s taken me 20+ years to be able to mention that moment without trauma).
 
Yeh, *that* moment was when my I AM NOT ENOUGH / ABANDONMENT wound really became compounded … and it’s taken me over 20 years to finally release the trauma of that event .. to finally see it as “just something that happened” … and to know I AM ENOUGH .. and that there was obvious some shit my mother was dealing with that I was obviously triggering her.
 

So yeh.

 
Happy Mother’s Day.
 

Maybe ?