MONEY. MEN. PLEASURE. PLAY.

Hello Monday 🌟🔥😃💖 .. what the hell has the rest of the week going to surprise me with ?!
 
MONEY 💰
 
Thanks to my human/victim not being heard, healed and released she was fucking with my abundance.
 
I am in love and appreciation that I earned enough to “get by” last week (a few debts didn’t get paid due to how I had earned so little that week)… by today all my accounts were starting to look bleak.
 
MEN. 🚹
 
Specifically one man in my life … triggered my victim. Interesting how I had been doing the chasing for months … interesting that I felt like I couldn’t get any of my needs met either by myself and or OTHER men.
 
Interesting I felt afraid to let him go … afraid I wouldn’t attract another or better or whatever relationship …
 
PLEASURE 💋 & PLAY 🌟
 
This is more than about sex. Sex is part of this equation however not the whole picture.
 
As much as I thought I was enjoying both of these in my life .. I wasn’t … especially how my last orgasm was .. well … on Tuesday. (Personally I love orgasms and having only one per week is a symptom – I prefer to have at minimum 3 per week. Considering all the different types, variety and intensities – it’s actually great for me to keep me connected/grounded/in flow.)
 
💥🔥💥
 
AS SOON AS I let my (inner) victim to be heard & witnessed .. allowed her to speak both words and energetically … she disappeared !
 
She got what she wanted … and I said to her:
 
Yes and now it is time for you to go. 👋🏼
 
(I used my own mix of doing an aspecting process, journalling exercise and turning triggers to treasure process.)
 
Im Sorry. Please Forgive Me. I Love You. Thank You.
 
💰💰💰 MONEY
 
After releasing my victim I let my inner masculine take charge … he sent off two invoices for dog walking that were due … he checked emails to find out there was a tantra client booking request for yesterday I missed 😳 (as I was too busy denying my victim to be released) …
 
And my inner feminine was busy sending out requests to the universe and listening to the intuitive guidance …
 
Thanks to her magick …
 
🚹 MEN !!
 
She helped me attract a tantra client for today!
 
I also feel finally ready to do something I had stopped myself from diving into because of fear — TINDER
 
Yes I am a TINDER virgin.
 
Also an old playmate has become a possibility 😜💋 as I realise now thanks to Ej Lorna Kristie and a few other women … I *can* attract the men I desire and require.
 
(and yes I will also be available for the other gender identities as I’ve recently become pansexual due to my Tantra work)
 
I also realised I am strong enough a woman to have my boundaries respected by myself. 👌🏼💕
 
( note: this is NOT an invite for you to be sleazy and send me inappropriate messages via FB. )
 
💋💥🌟 PLEASURE & PLAY
 
Thanks to some guidance from Rebecca (yet ultimately myself) … I unlocked yet another full body orgasm ..
 
This one was different tho to the one on Tuesday.
 
This one came without resistance as I was in surrender.
 
It really did feel like it started with my pussy then the energy/orgasm went all thru me.
 
I also let my pussy have a sunbathe after in thanks 💋💥🙏🏼
 
Plus I was (and still am at the time of this post) a little blissed out .. when I ate something .. I actually took pleasure in it .. experienced the food I was eating in a totally present mindful (different) way.
 
What was interesting when I was self pleasuring (more tantric type of masturbation – I used mostly breath, a little movement, touch (not necessarily on/near my pussy) and sound) … I remembered something Eyal said to me at his last workshop … and opened my eyes to “connect” with “universe” as my partner .. and I saw … a bee buzzing around (abundance totem) … a small yellow butterfly (another abundance totem) … my kitty cat who was interestingly drawn to me from wherever she was …
 
And curiously I felt “held” 🙌🏼 during it 💕
 
If you got all the way to the end – thank you 🙏🏼💕 I needed to “blog” it ❤️
 
Now time to “get my priestess on” (tantra client on his way!) 🌟💖
 
PS If you did read this all the way to the end – type the word GAZ 🐶😂

Were there times in the past year YOU found anything sexual (esp. penetrative sex) unpleasurable ?

Believe it or not, I have. Yes, even someone like me who has awoken her physical/sexual + emotional/mental + spiritual/energetic bodies … have had them in divine communion … have had at least two incidents in the past year !

These two incidents were with two different men .. one of them I had been on a date with (yeh, only one date) .. and it was a divine double lesson in both knowing where my boundaries were as well as realising I no longer could just “sleep around” like I used to do :/ (yes, I had been going thru what I called a slut phase (which I use in an empowered word) for the last 10 years since my late 20s) …. and the other was part of a three-some (I was the other woman – the “Unicorn” as I’m known in swinger circles) …. I felt fine being with the other woman (interestingly) however as the both the man/woman couple in this circumstance were also dom/sub (man as master) … I wasn’t in the right head-space to be dominated as I was wanting sensuality and other ‘needs’ there weren’t met at the time.

Thus I’d say this percentage is higher if more women readily admitted it.

It’s thanks to these two incidents that I now have very strong (and stable) boundaries around penetrative sex … and am very picky with how I will allow someone (even myself!) penetrate me with penis, vibrators, fingers, tongues or anything 😍😋

I also am more intune with my physical/sexual body for what it needs at any point in time – whether it is energetic, sensual or sexual (‘fuck me now’), domination/submission/kink. Sometimes it’s a mixture of two 😉 as it was for me last weekend when I was with the man in my life (I don’t label the relationship in purpose) .. he intuitively knew exactly what I wanted without me saying 🙂

He had me over his lap (playing into my kinky-nature).. whilst also touching me sensually (which I had been craving all week) … and giving my ass a slap every so often .. whilst also asserting himself enough so that I stayed in surrender (as I did slip out of ‘allowance’ and surrender every so often) … and surrender I did .. and the whole experience was multi-orgasmic. He hardly penetrated me with his fingers .. and NEVER TOUCHED MY CLIT 💓💓

It’s amazing my own personal journey in regards to my clit: I’ve come from ‘only’ being able to get off being clitorial (and not really ‘knowing’ any other orgasms) to being able to get off in multiple ways beyond it .. even in other parts of my body outside of my genitals (back, neck, legs, inner thigh, feet, breasts, etc).

I’m okay with sharing this (even tho’ some people might regard this post as soft porn or erotica) as I want the reminder myself of what is possible .. without actual penis in vagina sex.

That whole experience was so … just … insanely orgasmic on all levels.

This is why I’m incredibly excited about attending Awakening Female Pleasure beyond yoni massage – Brisbane later this month 😁 …. you’ll have to join The Bewitchful Connection ( Body | Love | Sexuality ) for the inside pics, video and insights that I share in regards to the event.

A Curious Mind Creates Magick

I’ve been listening to my intuition and without question reaching out to a lot of people on my friends’ list with an invite to connect with me on a call.
 
I’ve been asking (as I am wanting to get to know those on my friends’ list here) to learn more about them and what it is they want to create or expand into that they feel is the next stage of their relationship with themselves / life.
 
I am wanting to connect with the people as people – beyond their Facebook profile.
 
It’s something I had avoided doing for a long long time … it was something I was asked to do many times by different mentors … I *know* it is through conversations that abundance results (in money, clarity, and many other ways).
 
It’s only now due to the fact I finally feel ‘connected’ to “me” that I can do this with more ease than I did before 💕
 
Here’s the thing: I AM GENUINELY CURIOUS — I am even upfront and truthful and state as such in the message: “call it a child’s curiosity and wanting to connect more with the people”
 
Thankfully most people have been receptive. Those who it hasn’t resonated with for whatever reason have usually ignored me or just said they’re too busy .. which is okay 💕
 
I have only had one person who due to her cautiousness couldn’t trust that I was genuine in my connection. I get it. I’m not belittling her as I used to be her !
 
Someone would say “HI” to me via FB Messenger and I’d shut them down in a heartbeat because of how closed off and cautious and distrusting I was about people. (Ultimately, I was self-loathing – not kidding – because someone who is connected to love isn’t naturally distrusting.)
 
Now ? I’m a *lot* more open. I’m more receptive. I’m more trusting for the reason why people are reaching out to me. Also, for the men, I’m not as harsh either as I used to be (and I was harsh). ( Strongly recommend Queen’s Code for anyone who wants to transform their relationships with men !! )
 
Whilst I am more open… I also have boundaries and enough self-love (confidence) to also enforce those boundaries if I feel they’re being crossed at any time. It’s OKAY to say NO ! It is also okay to ask people to ‘give you space’ or ‘not right now’ or whatever.
 
Oh.. and this also applies if the person does offer you a service at the end of the call. Selling is the act of releasing the person from the illusion into truth / from disempowerment to empowerment / from fear to trust / from death to life.
 
Selling is a gift of love.
 
… and I don’t always have phone calls that result in selling something … this phone call from which this testimonial (attached) came from ended up being a connection call. We both got to know each other so much more better 💕 and that’s the gift we gave to each other.
 
Every phone call for me is about curiosity.
 
“Sales is a divine intervention of love, truth and liberation.” — Lorna Johnson
 
I’m led by my intuition as to where the call will go – I have no set agenda.
 
If I feel called to offer (“make a sale”), then I will without apology or shame because how can I be shameful of offering something so loving:
 
To assist the person to lay down their struggle … to guide them out of their pattern of deep victimisation … to trust (truly) themselves … and better self-worth, valuing themselves ? 💕
 
Testimonial May 29 2017

Every phone call for me is about me using my intuition and just like any muscle .. the more it is used .. the more it develops. 💪🏽

 
During every call I am providing safe-harbour for every person to be themselves without judgement or shame … and ultimately understand that they are infinitely powerful beings that do not fear. 🙏🏽💥
 
… and hence the reason every phone call I get to create magick 🌟 through curiosity

New Moon Ceremony

This ceremony is an eclectic mix from various sources that I used for inspiration. It was inspired by the private New Moon Fire Ceremony I hosted last night in Palm Beach.  Feel free to do with others or by yourself .. and naturally tweak it as you see fit.

 
WELCOME
 
Ours is a circle, a circle of friendship,
and just like a circle, it goes on and on
endless, eternal, this circle of friendship;
 
— say your name and call in other people —
 
Enter our circle, for here you belong.
 
OPENING
 
God and Goddess, Guardian Angels, and Spiritual Guides
Please be present with us during this ritual
Bless this circle and keep those present protected
No unwanted entities are welcome here
Only pure, divine beings are invited into this space
 
Send to us winds of knowledge and wisdom,
From the fertile ground may we draw growth and stability,
May we ignite our spark of courage and inspiration,
May our intuition wash over us
To bless us in our circle
 
BREATHE + CONNECT + GROUND + CENTRE
 
REFLECT + INTENTION SETTING
 
Write down these words “I accept these things into my life now or something better for my highest good and for the highest good of all concerned.” or something similar at the top of your piece of paper. Below this statement, begin writing down your desires. Your list may consist of a single item or you may have several pages listing multiple items. Try not to limit yourself. If having many things in your life helps to fulfill you then don’t deny yourself wanting these things.
 
It is helpful to salt and pepper your manifest list with smaller items that will manifest quickly. You may think that smaller things are too trivial to put on your intention list… Wrong! Things that tend to manifest with less effort still deserve to be written down. Write down everything that you desire, no matter how little or simple. If it is something that makes you happy, write it down. Manifesting smaller items on our lists actually creates a steady flow of chi giving your list a boost. These smaller manifestations create movement, allowing an ebb and flow of the tides.
 
WITNESS + LET GO
 
Each woman present will stand at the fire, make the statement and then share what she feels drawn to share (keywords, what’s written or whatever) with those present. When she is ready put the paper into the fire – releasing it and letting it go.
 
CLOSING
 
God and Goddess, Guardian Angels, and Spiritual Guides
Thank You for Your presence here today
Thank You for sharing your …
deep mysteries and intuition,
inspiration and courage,
stability and growth,
wisdom and knowledge.
 
Stay if you will, go if you must,
But know that you are ever welcome in our hearts.
 
— END —
Remember to stay hydrated and to eat something healthy to assist you with grounding after the ceremony.

I would not take advice or life coaching from anyone that has not ‘been there, done it.’


The above post in full:

👩 peron on facebook: I would not take advice or life coaching from anyone that has not ‘been there, done it.’

👏✊ This is the exact reason why I’m I re-birthed Lady Vee : Bewitchful Confidence ! I *have* been there, done it.

I have been the shy wallflower at a party just eating the food so as to avoid having to talk to anyone.

I have been the stripper, title-holding showgirl, “glamour” (read: topless/nude/lingerie) model, published (nude) centerfold, xxx (agency) stripper and topless/nude waitress.

I have been “the slut” .. consequently it was also the birth of when I learned of my bi-sexuality and the fact that I do not believe in monogamous relationships.

I have done burlesque and was trained by one of the best ( Lola the Vamp ).

I have done Hens Parties when I ran a (successful at the time) “promotions and modelling” agency 😉 (read: male + female strippers and topless waiters and waitresses) where I taught lap dancing and strip-tease.

In Lady Vee : Bewitchful Confidence’s first incarnation of “StripperLike Confidence” I successfully taught a group of ladies to “be like a stripper” .. and saw the transformations that took place 😄

I’ve been there, done that in being disconnected to my body so much that I was starting to deviate into the realm of BDSM since pain was the only way I could feel ‘anything’ 😐 (this isn’t healthy for me personally – BDSM is a valid lifestyle just not for me.)

I’ve been there, done that in having my boundaries violated – multiple times in all sorts of ways.

I’ve been there, done that in distrusting men and only “using” them for sex and money and whatever I could get from them.

I’ve been there, done that in tapping into abundance only to have it not last and the story/beLIEf I had that this was true .. that it doesn’t last.

I’ve been there, done that in re-wiring my brain and re-awakening my body (all of it not just my pussy/yoni) to experience pleasure at the slightest touch. To be re-connected to my body. To “up-level” my pleasure in a way (lol!)

I’ve now been there, and still doing it: finding my TRUE purpose. finding me. being FREE of the “I am not enough-ness” .. finally really understanding without a shadow of a doubt that I am enough.

Understanding that any of my limiting beliefs are now not my own. None of the events in my life that used to hold “sway” over me no longer do .. and now I know what’s it’s like to deal with generational/biological limiting beliefs (aka “I am not enough-ness”) that I inherited biologically from my mother and father and their parents and so on.

💋🦋💞

Your soul is constantly sending you messages

These message help us on our journey through life and to help make life easier for us (as souls ONLY know ease).

The Feather – the first (gentlest) message we get

The Brick – a not so gentle reminder

The Truck – a massive shift to life

The idea of the feather, the brick and the truck is our soul’s way of delivery of the message (depending upon if our human-self is listening or ignoring)…

I got the truck on Thursday and it took me most of Friday to ‘recover’ from that head on collision with it.

“You want to know the ONLY reason you’re exhausted ? You’re living a lie.” — Lorna Johnson

.. and that is the reason why my own personal battery (which is typically usually ‘fully charged’ and why I seem to have such a ‘big personality’ online) … thanks to what I did (all the decisions I had made which resulted in everything that happened) on Thursday … I was so drained … I felt intensely disconnected from myself … I was at such a low ‘ebb’ … and it was interesting what happened to me whilst I was in that space.

I started second guessing …
I started doubting …
I felt numb (I didn’t have ‘the energy’ to ‘feel’ anything!) …
I had lost my connection to “me” …
I had ‘no voice’ …

If you have a look at my posts from yesterday I relied heavily upon other peoples’ voices to be my own voice as I felt so energetically low .. that I had ‘nothing’ … I couldn’t ‘give’ from an empty cup.

When I understood this (which I did even whilst I was ‘experiencing’ what I experienced on Thursday) … I knew I had just had a major shift …

… and here are the steps I did to regain my energy …

I threw a tantrum then I did my tantric/reiki meditation.

I sent myself a lot of love and compassion.

I never made myself wrong – it just was something that happened based upon decisions I had made earlier in the week.

I listened *AND ACTED* upon my intuition.

It told me around midday to go sit out in the sun (this time on a bean bag – no ants biting my ass!!) to just “be” .. and hang out with Marnie and Garry. I have no f-ing clue how long I was out there .. the point is .. I didn’t question it .. I did it.

FUCK DID THAT HELP RE-CHARGE ME A LOT ! It’s was like a power boost .. going from empty to half full ..

How’d I re-charge to 100% ?

I made the commitment to myself to go ahead with the FB Live Lights On And Dance event I created awhile ago whilst also eating a lot of peppermint and staying hydrated.

The dancing was me “speaking” my truth

The dancing was me being myself unapologetically.

I spelled my name with my ass on FB Live and everyone can view it….

I was having fun.

The secret to bewitchful confidence ? Switch from fear to truth.

I want to invite you to get on a call with me to talk more about what it is you want to create or expand into that you feel is the next stage of your relationship with yourself / life … (call it a child’s curiosity and wanting to connect more with the people)

Let’s chat: www.bewitchfulconfidence.today

I just Goddess-f*$#*’d my husband (Guest Post)

Ever wondered why I started my journey into tantra and sacred sexuality ?  It’s because after I had done a lot of work on healing myself and re-awakening my body (not just my pussy – all of my body) .. I have experienced this cosmically orgasmic experience with the same man three separate times.  (Unfortunately, due to life it isn’t every time – we’re both a work in progress.)

Never in my life previously had I experienced anything close!  Thus the reason I offer tantric massage for men, women and couples so as THEY can start on the journey I started .. and eventually with whomever can experience the same.


Author: Tressa Yonekawa Bundren  { source }

This is important, women. This is here if you want to understand more about your power in sex and sensuality.

I just allowed myself to have the best sex of my life. I am infinitely lucky and grateful to be partnered with a man who is an ever-evolving amazing lover. This is a reciprocal, ever-reflective process, and sometimes it just works out luckily, haphazardly and drunk with lust.

Today was a combination of all of those things.

One reason he’s an amazing lover is that he is invested in my pleasure, and he responds to my desire with receiving and reflecting and offering of his own desire. He wants me to feel good while he’s feeling good.

Men, did you catch that? It’s not really about the size of your penis or how hard and deep you can penetrate me. It’s about how you handle desire.

Feel me on this.

How many times have you had sex with a partner and you were just basically participating so someone didn’t feel bad or because you just needed to orgasm or because it felt like you were expected to, etc.? The list of reasons why we “kind of participate” in sex is pretty long. We all have our own reasons. We’ve all done it.

But what if

What if we could be deeply present? Deeply feeling? Deeply connected? What would sex be like if we regularly engaged ourselves and each other in the kind of sex that’s completely worth getting dirty for, being late for, flinching pleasantly as we sit down when we feel that perfect soreness of being well-nibbled, fucked and/or spanked?

It kind of makes me hot to think about it. You know, those times when everything just clicks?

I know the secret to bringing that to the table (park bench, bed or backseat) every time.

Want to know how to fuck like a Goddess?

Let’s make a deal. I’ll share this with you, and you promise yourself and me that you’ll try it. Just try it. Deal? I trust both of us to want better relationships and better sex for ourselves.

Here it is.

Show up.  Show up. Show up.  

We built a temple: Temple Apalala. From the first discussion about what we wanted, we knew it would be a space to honor intimacy and music. It’s a space where no shoes are allowed. The sign in the entryway on the shoe rack reads:

“Leave your stories, excuses and fears outside. Leave your shoes here. Enter in your wholeness. Welcome in.”  

The same is true in sex, only… you can leave your shoes on if they’re fabulous, of course.

Now, this is just a part of how we show up for each other. We remember to leave our shit outside. We can always pick it up later if we want it. The bonus here is it has always been, and will always be, your personal choice to carry your stories, excuses and fears… or not. You choose a thousand times a day. Keep choosing the highest good.

This is where my request of you to show up really gets juicy and makes us squirm.

Can you show up, just for sex, just this once (you promised that you’d try it… just saying) and make the choice to leave out your anger, frustration, your partner’s bad habits, and that time your mom told you something ego-based and not true about yourself but you believed it?

Because if you can, even for a few minutes, then you are showing up for yourself and your partner. You are opening up to Goddess-intimacy, and believe me, Goddess, you deserve this entirely.

Thank you for practicing being whole, vibrant, powerful, sensual and compassionate.

Welcome in.