Believe it or not, I have. Yes, even someone like me who has awoken her physical/sexual + emotional/mental + spiritual/energetic bodies … have had them in divine communion … have had at least two incidents in the past year !
These two incidents were with two different men .. one of them I had been on a date with (yeh, only one date) .. and it was a divine double lesson in both knowing where my boundaries were as well as realising I no longer could just “sleep around” like I used to do :/ (yes, I had been going thru what I called a slut phase (which I use in an empowered word) for the last 10 years since my late 20s) …. and the other was part of a three-some (I was the other woman – the “Unicorn” as I’m known in swinger circles) …. I felt fine being with the other woman (interestingly) however as the both the man/woman couple in this circumstance were also dom/sub (man as master) … I wasn’t in the right head-space to be dominated as I was wanting sensuality and other ‘needs’ there weren’t met at the time.
Thus I’d say this percentage is higher if more women readily admitted it.
It’s thanks to these two incidents that I now have very strong (and stable) boundaries around penetrative sex … and am very picky with how I will allow someone (even myself!) penetrate me with penis, vibrators, fingers, tongues or anything 😍😋
I also am more intune with my physical/sexual body for what it needs at any point in time – whether it is energetic, sensual or sexual (‘fuck me now’), domination/submission/kink. Sometimes it’s a mixture of two 😉 as it was for me last weekend when I was with the man in my life (I don’t label the relationship in purpose) .. he intuitively knew exactly what I wanted without me saying 🙂
He had me over his lap (playing into my kinky-nature).. whilst also touching me sensually (which I had been craving all week) … and giving my ass a slap every so often .. whilst also asserting himself enough so that I stayed in surrender (as I did slip out of ‘allowance’ and surrender every so often) … and surrender I did .. and the whole experience was multi-orgasmic. He hardly penetrated me with his fingers .. and NEVER TOUCHED MY CLIT 💓💓
It’s amazing my own personal journey in regards to my clit: I’ve come from ‘only’ being able to get off being clitorial (and not really ‘knowing’ any other orgasms) to being able to get off in multiple ways beyond it .. even in other parts of my body outside of my genitals (back, neck, legs, inner thigh, feet, breasts, etc).
I’m okay with sharing this (even tho’ some people might regard this post as soft porn or erotica) as I want the reminder myself of what is possible .. without actual penis in vagina sex.
That whole experience was so … just … insanely orgasmic on all levels.